Okay, so when you see the title of this blog please don’t come at me right away. I don’t need to hear well you don’t know the information, everyone is different. Yes! Everyone is different, hence why Kim edition is added to the title.
If you know me personally or even have been following me on the blog or my social media accounts, you knew that I was in a serious relationship. I was with my ex for four years. I am not here to bash him in anyway. Also, I am not here to give out the details or story of our break up. That is something that is very personal to me and like I stated it is our story and I do plan on keeping it that way.
What I am here to share with you is the different stages that I went through post break up. These stages will be mentally, physically, and emotionally.
I know that there are many types of breakups and that we will not all be on the same page with what I went through. I feel like sharing this is also part of my own post break up healing. Kind of like how we can journal things so we can release them from our mind, I am just achieving this through a blog post. I am also doing this so that way if there is anyone that can relate to any of this, you can reach out to me! Doesn’t matter the length of time, we all have the right to feel how we feel after ending a relationship.
The Stages:
Depression:
This was the first stage for me because I hit this right when the breakup happened. I cried a lot , but if you know me then you know that I am a super emotional person to begin with. I went into a shut down and shut off from everything around me mode. My friends and family would be checking on me and I would talk to them, but I just didn’t really feel anything about what they are saying. This last about a week for me.
Anger:
I will definitely admit that I did get angry. I am not going into the details as to why I developed some rage because again that is personal. But after my feelings were shut off, I got mad. I have to say I was guilty at times for taking this anger out on the wrong people that were just trying to be there for me. This stage was rather quick for me because I am not good at being angry. As my best friend always says, my heart is filled with rainbows, butterflies, and glitter! But, it is completely okay to be angry, just know how to control that so others don’t get hurt in the process.
Lacking confidence:
This is the stage that I am currently still going through. I would like to call it a lingering stage. My mind went right to thinking I am not good enough for anyone, I am not pretty, I am too fat. Looking into a mirror was extremely hard to do and I didn’t care to do it often. I didn’t like myself no matter what I wore, how I did my hair or make up, everything was ugly. I kept questioning my heart and why it couldn’t be fully loved and accepted. I was wondering where did I go wrong?
Determined:
This is one of the stages that I am also currently in. I have learned that I am worth all that I want and truly deserve. I wan to love myself fully and be my own biggest fan and supporter. I am working on being kinder to myself because I am my worst critic. I can be very harsh on myself and I am the first person to put myself down. I have started back into things that were bringing me joy before the breakup. I am working out again and that has helped me to stress less, to feel better about myself, and just overall be in a better mood. This stage is going to stick around forever now because I want what is best for me.
Being Single:
The last stage that I have for you, is getting used to being single again. Let me tell you it is a weird thing after being in a serious relationship. I am not used to being alone a lot of the time. It is also weird now to go out and be single and having to strike up small talk with guys. Even having guys want to hang out with me is new and going to take some getting used to!
I hope that maybe if you have been in the situation or maybe even are currently struggling with a breakup, this helps. I know this might have been a lot to read but, at the same time I feel better having it all out in the open. I know that each day I am going to continue to grow and move on with whatever is supposed to happen next in life!